I came across this article about casual sex on CNN and was kind of intrigued by it. Here is the link to the article if you would like to read it:
My Take: There's Nothing Brief About a Hook Up.
In college, everyone, guy or girl, has the same goal when they go out on the weekends: they want to hook up. Hooking up has different meanings to different people, so it could go from just a heavy make out session to having sex during or after a party. Everyone wants to score and most people try to do this without any feelings involved. I envy the person who can, "do it like a dude" (seeing as it's a lot easier for guys to hook up and move on than girls), because unless you really have no feelings for the other person to begin with, it's really difficult.
A lot of my friends have had casual hook ups in college; some of them were too drunk to care and others were really heart broken that the guy who they hooked up with had no desire to have anything to do with them again. Of coures this is a double standard, I'm sure some of you have the idea that my friends are sluts and should have not gotten drunk and not slept with those guys. Not true; while it's happening, it's fun, it's like a game. At that time, you're not thinking about later until later comes and you're looking for a facebook request or message or text and nothing comes. The guy tells all of his friends (most of the time) and he looks girl, while the girl is labeled a slut and sometimes picked apart for her appearance or what she did.
I have nothing against hooking up, but as far as the emotional pain that comes with it when nothing comes of it, it really sucks. The casual hook ups could happen every time the two are at the same party, but who knows who else each of them are hooking up with. That's the scary part for me; it's losing the dignity, the self respect, and the uncertainty. It's a safety thing as well, you never know who has an STI that has not been detected. I'm not saying ooo, don't hook up, you'll get diseases. I just want to see women (and men) respecting themselves. College IS the time for experimentation and finding yourself, but I personally don't see how you can find yourself through mindless drunken hook ups when you aren't even completely aware of what's going on.
